Successful Situationships – 01 Audrey (Bio Mom) & Whitney (Step Mom)
When Audrey Nicole posted a heart-felt open letter to her daughter’s father’s girlfriend (Whitney McGraw) she didn’t expect that it would go viral and inspire thousands of people to re-asses and celebrate the relationship between bio moms and step moms- but it certainly has. The post which was shared on November 14th in the Facebook Page Love What Matter’s Most has already garnered 88K likes and over 3k comments. It reads:
We here at You, Me and She were so inspired by Audrey and Whitney’s story that we have started a new blog segment called Successful Situationships, which aims to highlight success stories just like Whitney and Audrey’s in an effort to shine a spot light on what is possible when two people can set aside their feelings and ego to do what’s best for the child – and ultimately themselves. We were also lucky enough to have the opportunity to speak to Audrey personally and get a some insight on how she co parents with Whitney.
Describe in your own words your co-parenting relationship with each other?
Audrey: So in my own words co-parenting can be difficult BUT you can make it work. You have to put your feelings aside and really, really, really focus on what’s important. Look at the big picture. Also, know it’s not always going to happen overnight but you have to try!
How long have you been co-parenting with each other?
Audrey:I’ve been co-parenting (with Whitney) for a year now, so I made it work and we’ve just started!
Did your relationship start off positively, or were there some initial challenges in the beginning that worked themselves out as your relationship grew?
Audrey:Things with Whitney started off positive because I chose not to make it a negative thing and made it positive.
How do both of you maintain a positive, respectful relationship during times where you might disagree or are facing a challenge?
Audrey:Everyone sees differently and people don’t always see eye to eye. But, we haven’t had any issues because we’re so welcoming to each other’s ideas.
How do you feel your positive co-parenting relationship has impacted your daughter? Any other kids?
Audrey: I feel it’s affecting Riley [in a positive way] because she sees I’m happy about it. It makes her ok with going over there. If a parent is negative towards the step parent, the child will be also.
What inspired you to create the Facebook post in the first place? Did you think it was going to go as viral as it did?
Audrey: I had not even a clue it would go around the world! I’m still in shock about it, but posted it just because I like people to know when good things happen in my life.
What was Whitney’s reaction to the post and the feedback on the post?
Audrey: Whitney cried with happy tears and it made her feel special
What is one piece of advice you would give to those trying to achieve the same kind of positive co -parenting relationship?
Audrey: Give people a try before you judge. Stop being so spiteful because your relationship didn’t work and your ex (and new partner’s) is. That person was not for you, someone else is. It didn’t work but you have to move on.
You, Me & She would like to congratulate Audrey and Whitney for being this week’s Successful Situationship and showing us how being open to and committing yourself to a positive co parenting situation is a win-win for everyone involved.